How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
To make my students feel seen, I will try to greet them at the door (if I can) or acknowledge them as they come in the room. I will let fly with the compliments and affirmations to the extreme. I can ask questions and make comments about what they did over break or over the weekend or overnight. Not just smile and say, "Uh huh," but make comments that really show I heard what they said. As far as my collegues go, I really want to focus on appreciating our paras. I have to interact with several different ones a day and I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate them and what they contribute to each class period. Everyone wants to know they are appreciated.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I can make my students feel seen my developing relationships with them, getting to know them and the activities they like to be involved in. I greet them at the door before class and also as they exit. I stand in the hall during passing time, which gives me an opportunity to visit with them outside of class. I can make sure my fellow teachers feel "seen" by simple conversation. I am very lucky in that the staff I work with are a tight knit group. We visit with each other prior to the school day, to see how the evening was and then discuss the upcoming day. We ask about each other's families and how their weekends were. We also have the opportunity to have lunch together on any given school day.
There are numerous ways to make our students feel seen and have relevance in their social world. I teach middle school, and their are always ways to help kids feel seen, especially in the hall-way classroom, extracurricular events, and around town. Give them light-ups about how they are doing, in the things they enjoy. Get to know them and what they like. Take that idea and look to expand on those. I like to give high fives, fist bumps, whacky funny saying the kids have come up with, ect. (with in reason) (common sense). We all need to slow down, in all areas of life. With all relationships, family, coworkers parents of students. Take the time to acknowledge the individual you are speaking to, actually focus and listen to them. Quit multi-tasking for a sincere conversation to happen.
I teach middle school and I try to have a little private conversation with each of my students every week to check in and see how they are doing. I have had so many kids with horrible lives and just being there for them and letting them know they can count or come to me anytime hopefully lets them know that they are seen. I love being in the hallway in the mornings and greeting each student who I have or have had. There is nothing better than hearing, "you are/were my favorite teacher". And if they don't like me, I try to kill them with kindness and find the same interests, whether it's their pets, sports teams or other interests.
I can make every child be seen by asking them how there day and/or weekend was. I can also make them feel seen by checking in with them about anything they have talked to me about prior. Lastly , I can make them feel seen by talking to them about something I know about them. For example I have my students write down their favorite food at the beginning of the year, I always use this to strike up a conversation. For example "abigail, Stuffed peppers are one of my favorites too!"
I can make my colleagues feel seen by asking them how their family is and how their weekend was. I also try and check in with them over break by saying things such as "I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas". I also try to bake goodies for my colleagues once a year.
I feel like admin also wants me to see them for who they are, and people tend to forget this!
I try to make my students be seen by using their names when I see them. It helps to show them that they are important enough to me to learn who they are. I try to build connections and tend to build them the most quickly with "those students". I try making my colleagues seen by asking them questions about their home life or listen to them if they need to get something off their shoulders. I make sure every time I see our grumbly night custodian or shy tech person, that I say hi to them and use their name.
I can make sure my first grade students feel seen by greeting them each day as they come into the classroom. A smile and each name said as they arrive. I can allow for time to listen to what is going on in their little lives at home. What are their favorite things? What did they do over the weekend or what are they going to do the next weekend? I can celebrate the little wins as each one conquer another milestone in the classroom academically. I can schedule lunch dates with my students to allow them to have individual attention periodically. I can send notes home to guardians when I see students show kindness, or are helpful or any other positive behavior. I can ensure that my colleagues feel 'seen' by making eye contact in the hallway. Acknowledge them in the day to day tasks and decisions. I can take a recess duty for them when I notice they are overwhelmed or having a difficult day. Leaving them encouraging notes when I see how hard they are working or how involved they are in the education of their students. My husband and children NEED me to see them just as they are and notice the positive things they contribute to our home and family.
There are several ways I try to make sure every single one of my students feel seen by me. I start the day in the hallway and greet the students as they enter the room. I say good morning along with their name, and then I try to throw some little fact out to them so they know I care about them (How did you basketball game go last night? I saw your favorite football team won! Did you have fun at your club meeting? What did you learn new in Boys Scouts?). I also hand out sheets of paper about once a week that says "I wish my teacher knew...." and they finish the sentence and hand it in to me. Some students will just say something pretty simple, while other students will go into detail about something. I will also tell them that if they would like to talk to me about it in person to write that on there so I can pull them aside some time in private and we can discuss it or I can get them to the corresponding person to talk about whatever they wrote down. Another way, at the end of the day I go around and "sign" planners and do a daily check in. I have short conversations with each student to check in on the day and talk about upcoming events they might have coming up. My colleagues and I were pretty close, we would all stand in the hallways together in the morning before the students would come and talk about life in general. During the day during plan time we would always touch base and make sure we always had ongoing communication. Most importantly, my family needs to see me just as I am. For this reason, I am taking a break in teaching so I can be fully present with my family.
Making students feel seen starts with greeting them by name, noticing things about them, mentioning I watched their sporting event. I try to make sure I notice when things seem "off" and try to lend an ear. I try to celebrate effort and little achievements. I send a letter to 2 students every week thanking them. Being seen is about consistent, everyday moments of connection. For my colleagues to be seen, I try to peek in and say Hi to all 4 of them each morning. I try to get to know their families and children and ask about them. Probably the person that needs me to see them the most is my husband, Jim. We both work long hours and are tired and sometimes just go through the motions.
I only teach one class, General Business. I always start out my year with spending a lot of time getting to know my students. I like to find out their goals for the year, family information and future plans. I will often ask them about these things throughout the year so they know that I listened and care. I usually ask the students about their weekend plans on a Friday and then follow up on Monday to see how their weekend went and how their plans turned out. I know who is involved in different activities and make sure to wish them luck, whether that is for their play competition, band concert, or athletic event. I work in a very small school and when I'm not teaching this class, I'm the administrative assistant in the office. I know all the kids in grades JK - 12. When I see them in the hallway I try to acknowledge them by name. The younger light up when they hear their name. For staff I try to do a shout out for those that did something for me or if I witnesses something they did for a student. We have a shout out board in our elementary where you can post these. I like to do thank you notes for my admin team. I feel that they often don't hear the good they are doing enough so I try to make sure they know I see them. I also like to acknowledge how awesome our cooks and custodian are. I make signs and have the students sign them or I make sure the kids sing happy birthday to them. I try to give more compliments throughout the day. If I'm ever having a bad day I just need to go to the elementary end of the building. Those kids always make you feel good about yourself with their compliments on my clothes, shoes, hair, jewelry, etc. They do a great job of lighting me up!
I teach 2nd grade, my students in age are typically 7-8 years old. They love hugs, they love compliments, they love to please. They participate, they socialize, they connect with each other. I have 27 students this year, one of my largest classes. These students have been together for 3 years as we live in a small community. They've been able to build/create friendships for years. That being said, students have connections made with their peers and have been building this for 3+ years. I try to connect with my students daily, sometimes hourly & at times to the minute. I came late to the 'game' as these students have build connections for years & here I come in the 'newbie' to the game. At the beginning of the school year, I build connections outside. The first month of the school year I like to take my kids outside when no other class is outside. We swing, slide, throw the football and begin building connections. I think it's important to build that connection begins at school, but not necessarily in the classroom. I find that students share & open up more when the setting isn't as formal as their classroom. I also like to show up at my students events (sports games, dance/piano recital). Although I'm only their teacher for 10 months, I want to show them that I am interested in more than their academics. I care about their whole being and it helps build that connection. Even helping students set goals and checking in on their goals, has also helped build connection. This shows them I care how their moving towards their goal. The school I work at has 2 sides for each grade, so we are a smaller school. It's easier to make sure colleagues are 'seen', but at times our days are so busy that I can go all day and not see my neighbor teachers. In the morning, all of the lower pod teachers stand in the common area & wait for our students. While we are waiting we take the time to connect and check in with one another. That last question is a powerful one & I know the answer right away. My 3 children need me to see them, just the way they are. It's hard to separate the parent/teacher role, so at times, I try the teacher role, when it should be the parent role. It's tough to separate those roles specifically because they are 'my' kids too. When they feel seen, they will rise.
I greet each of my students as they arrive on the playground or in my classroom. I work hard to learn about them including their likes, their family, pets, special interests etc. Preschoolers are almost always excited to share something, so giving them the opportunity to speak & share something exciting lets them know they matter and builds a relationship with not only me, but their classmates.
Checking in with my co-workers both personally (how did your daughter's game go) & professionally through collaboration and idea sharing lets them feel & know they are seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I make sure every single one of my students feel ‘seen’ by greeting them at the door each morning. During soft start, I will go around my room and talk with students about their morning or listen to things that they share with me. I take the first 15 minutes of the day to get the students settled and to greet and talk with students in the morning.
I make sure my colleagues ‘seen’ by giving them support if they come to me for help or if they need advice. I also try connect with them personally and ask how they are doing.
To make students feel "seen", I try to do the following: 1. Creating a Welcoming Classroom- when students walk in, I greet them, but not necessarily by name. (As a sub, I definitely try to learn names but it's always a work in progress). 2. Build Trust- I value allowing students to feel comfortable to express themselves. When students trust you, it makes for a way more relaxed environment. 3. Engage in conversations- I encourage conversations with students asking about their extra curriculum activities and daily life's.
"Seeing" Co-workers: 1. Recognize Hard Work- appreciating teachers for their hard work and contributions towards students and their learning. 2. Greet by name- Learn names so you can say hello and acknowledge them.
I feel anyone would appreciate being seen like school secretaries, paras, and administration.
I see 130some students on a daily basis. Making sure every single one of them feels 'seen' has always been a daunting task as I see them for 40 minutes max and then send them on their way to the next class. I make a conscious effort to connect with those students who don't seem to have a "group". I have one girl who is quieter than any other student I have ever had. In the hall, during passing time, I try to ask her about the book in her hand or anything else I can come up with. If I am lucky, I will get a short whispered response, but normally just a head nod. I hope she feels seen even if there isn't much of a response. My colleagues chat in the halls between classes and have lunch together, catching up on each other lives.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I teach BK-5 elementary pe and so I am lucky enough to know each and every student in our school. I always greet them at the gym doors and say hello/good morning/good afternoon/how are you. I compliment the students and encourage them all the time. I ask the students what activities they are involved in outside of school and for updates on how all of that is going. They know I'm a Packers fan and I have a lot of students that are also Packers fan and that has formed a cool bond between us. I have a fitness challenge facebook page where I also encourage the students and can see what types of activities they are doing. As for my colleagues, I am a social person and I make a conscious effort to talk to each of them as they drop off/pick up their students and give them encouragement either in person, with a note, or send a text message. Like the book says, we all need connection and making others feel "seen" definitely builds that connection. It also makes going to school more fun when those connections are made. We always seem to get new students throughout the year and those are the ones that I try to make them feel extra seen so that they feel comfortable in class and can start to build relationships.
How can I make sure my students feel seen? Here are some of the things I do to do this.
1) Use their names and greet them. This can be done at the door or during work time. I try to address every student by name every day. 2) Have a conversation with students. I try to have one conversation per week for each student. These can be brief. I will ask them about their basketball game next week, how their weekend went etc. 3) Attend extracurricular activities. To me, this one is non-negotiable. Every teacher should attend at least one of every school activity per year. I work all of the home sporting events at our school and my wife (also a teacher) attend school plays, concerts and other activities. Students enjoy being supported and seeing adults take an interest in their activities. It also gives you something to have a conversation with a student about later.
Teachers who do these things will have almost no discipline problems in their classes. Teachers who struggle with discipline almost never do.
As a high school librarian, making sure every student feels “seen” begins with creating a library space where all students feel welcome, respected, and comfortable being themselves. High school students are at a stage where they are forming their identities and interests, so I try to learn their names, ask about their activities, and remember the types of books or topics they enjoy—whether that’s graphic novels, sports biographies, fantasy series, or resources for college and career planning. I also try to notice when students come in looking stressed about assignments, college applications, or personal challenges and offer encouragement or help finding reliable information. Making colleagues feel “seen” means listening to their ideas, sharing helpful resources for their classes, and recognizing the effort they put into supporting students every day. Beyond students and teachers, it’s also important to notice those who may feel overlooked in a busy high school—new students, quieter students who spend time in the library between classes, paraprofessionals, custodial staff, and office staff. When we take time to acknowledge people, listen to them, and value their contributions, we help create a school environment where everyone feels that they belong.
As an ECSE teacher, I make sure every student feels seen by taking the time to learn about their interests, abilities, and emotions. I greet them personally, notice their efforts, validate their feelings, and celebrate even small accomplishments. I provide opportunities for choice and voice so they know their thoughts and preferences matter. I make sure each child and their family is represented in my room.
For colleagues, I make them feel seen by actively listening, acknowledging their contributions, offering support, and showing appreciation for their expertise and efforts.
Other people who need to be seen just as they are include families, administrators, and support staff. I can do this by building genuine relationships, respecting their perspectives, and demonstrating care and understanding in all interactions.
To make sure my students feel seen, I focus on building positive relationships with them. I make sure to say good morning and say their names when they walk in each day. During our morning circle, I give each of them time to share something with the class, or just me if they prefer. I notice when my students are working hard and trying their best. When one of my students is struggling with something, I give them time to calm down and take a break. I allow them an opportunity to visit if they want to. With students I have had in the past, when I see them in the hallways, I make sure to make eye-contact and say "hi". If times allows, I will visit a little more. Even after students aren't in my class anymore, I want them to know I still see them.
To make sure my colleagues feel seen, I check in with them. I ask them how it’s going or just how their day went. When a colleague comes to me with something they are struggling with, I make sure to be a good listener. I will usually follow up with a text message or a card reminding them that they are a great teacher, and that they are making a difference every single day. And sometimes leaving coffee or chocolate helps too. I also try to make sure others in the school such as paraprofessionals, administrators, cooks, janitors, and secretaries feel seen. I think just by saying by hi, listening, and thank you for all you do, can say a lot and shows appreciation.
Lastly, my family are people that need to be seen just as they are. On tough days this is something I have to remind myself of. This can be hard, because in families we sometimes have different opinions on varying topics, but ultimately, they are the one’s I love the most, and the ones who support me the most, so making them feel seen has to be a priority.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I can make sure all of my students feel seen by having real conversations with each of them. This is tough at the high school level where I have over 100 students a semester so I need to make sure I take advantage of the quick moments where I can dig into their interests. It could be a 30 second conversation, but if I can show them later that I remember something about them from our quick conversation, they will be seen.
With my colleagues, I can listen and not just wait for my turn to talk. This is harder for me than it sounds but it is critical. If things are going well, I need to be able to hear them and acknowledge them. If someone does something great or even good I can acknowledge it and let them know that I noticed. We all want to be seen.
My family also needs to be seen. My kids and my wife (and even my dog) need to know that I hear them and see them and understand their triumphs and their struggles. I want to make sure they don't feel alone in their low moments. I want to be there for them whenever I can be and show them that I see them.
I believe building good relationships with my students is the most important way to make them feel seen. I start by greeting them every morning by the door. I give compliments to them about their hair, clothes, shoes, activities, etc. Noticing when something is “off” for them or their mood is different and finding out that problem is huge, too. Discovering who they are outside of school and interacting with them during the day can really show that we care and they matter to us.
Checking in with colleagues is an important aspect of showing them you see them and hear them. Offering support and recognizing their hard work and dedication. Teaching can be very emotionally draining and challenging so it’s important to make sure your colleagues are surviving. And beyond the classroom, we have our families, our spouses, our friends, and anyone we see outside of the school. Everyone is fighting some sort of silent battle we know nothing about. Doing a random act of kindness, even just a simple smile or hello, can change someone’s day and make them feel seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
Students: Listening to them. Not just saying, "okay", but really listening to them. Following up with them and what they told you. Let them know that you really care about them. Currently, I have a step count competition with four students in one of my second grade classes. Yesterday I was on a walk and saw one of the four students at the park. They yelled across the park, "Mrs. Garcia what is your step count!". It's so fun to have connections with kids where they feel comfortable talking to you across the playground outside of school!
Colleagues: Talking will them and being a listening ear. Man, teaching can be tough. There are a variety of different behaviors that can a be tricky day in and day out and it can honestly be draining. Allowing our colleagues to vent or rant about something that is bothering and them knowing that you are a safe place for them and they know that you will not tell anyone.
Family: Being present with your family. Phones are the worst! I really try to make it a point to put my phone in a different room when I am with my family and kids. I want my kids and my husband to know that the time that I am with them is all for them, not for the screen. My husband and I try to get outside with our kids as much as we can. Obviously, the blizzard Monday kept us inside, but otherwise, when it is nice out we try to get out and be active with our children. We enjoy playing games and doing things that they like to do.
I will be in the hallway between classes and in the morning I will greet as many kids as I can and tell them to have a great day. I also ask kids how their day is going. I think eye contact with kids is important and actively listening to them. When they have a concern or issue, I want them to know that I care and will help them anyway I can. I also make sure I congratulate them when I hear good news about them.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I feel like this is an area I excel in. I am a very deeply feeling type of person. I am able to talk to anyone and make them feel included easily. I make friends easily. With my students, I greet them at the door each morning. They can choose their morning greeting which is -hug, fist bump, high five. I never skip this step, we do the same at the end of the day. I attend their extracurriculurs when I can. I make sure to ask them about their interests and continue to ask them throughout the year. My kids know they are loved and I care so deeply about each one of them. I would say I am gifted in this area. I also make sure my school, supervisors, anyone knows that they matter to me. That I genuinely care about their well being. I think everyone needs to know they matter. No one should be excluded. Everyone should matter greatly.
I can make my students feel see by saying their name, giving them a compliment, or giving them small pockets of my time. The first point, saying their name, might seem like a simple tasks but I have a large number of students on my roster and it’s easy for them to get lost in the shuffle. I think the same rings true for my colleagues. We all are busy with our ever-mounting workload but taking the time to check in on one another is so important. This was a great reminder that my family also needs to feel seen by me. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life but setting aside intentional time with my immediate family is critical.
I try to make sure my students feel seen by being the person at the door every single morning. It’s a small thing, but using their names and noticing something like a new pair of shoes or asking how a specific club meeting went makes a huge difference. I want them to know I’m not just waiting for them to sit down and start working, but that I’m genuinely glad they’re in the room.
When it comes to colleagues, I really want to focus on acknowledging our paras and support staff. They do so much of the heavy lifting in our classrooms, and it’s easy for that to go unnoticed in the middle of a busy day.
To make kids feel seen, they need to see you, they need to hear you, they need to know that you are there for them, building connections and learning about them. I greet my kids in the halls as they are transitioning from one class to the next. I try to be a funny guy in class with jokes and sayings that my students can relate to. Connecting with students as they work on wood projects and need that one-on-one help and compliment them as their projects come together beautifully. Connecting with colleagues is probably one area that I could improve on. Although we have a pretty small staff and a lot of us have been here for some time, I get busy in my shop and don't make my way out of it at times. I do have a few good buddies who like to play jokes and tricks on each other and I feel that is sometimes a good check-in but to really "SEE" how they are doing, I definitely could improve on that.
Making sure every student feels “seen” starts with small, consistent actions; taking the time to get to know them and their interests. Greeting them every morning. Listening when they speak, noticing their efforts, and valuing who they are both inside and outside the classroom.
Co-workers feel “seen” when we acknowledge their hard work, check in on them, and offer support to them.
Beyond the classroom, students’ families, support staff, and even those who seem quiet or overlooked need to be seen just as they are. When we truly see people, we build trust, connection, and a stronger school community
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
To help my students feel seen, comes down to small, consistent actions rather than big gestures. The biggest thing for me being an ELL teacher, is learning and using their names correctly. For example, Jesus (Hey-seuss, Xareni, (Ha-wren-e) and Arantxa (Ah-ron-s-ah). Another thing to make sure my students feel seen is to notice their effort, not just their outcomes. I need to pay attention to what excites or frustrates them, and reflect. Doing these things lets them know that they matter.
For my colleagues, feeling seen is similar but very often overlooked. I can try to acknowledge their contributions privately and/or publicly. I can also listen without immediately trying to fix or respond, and respect their time, boundaries, and working styles. Even a simple, genuine check-in can go a long way. You never what they are going through and hearing from you can make their day.
Other people who need to be seen could be the quiet person in the room who rarely gets acknowledged, someone who is struggling but covering it up well, a difficult student whose behavior might be covering something deeper, and even yourself needs to be seen. A lot of times I put everyone else before me and choose myself last, which then puts more stress on me. This is something that I need to change for myself and my mental health.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I would like to start by saying, I really enjoyed that TED Talk by Jody Carrington. I think to make everyone of your students feel seen, you have to have a genuine connection. (What a powerful statement by the coach that refers to getting his hockey players to skate faster because he knows the name of their dog.) That means, you have to care, care enough to learn about them and the things that they care about. I think that is similar to how you would make your co-workers feel seen. Connection to a person has to be genuine and sincere. There is no faking that. The other people in my life are probably the most important and because they my children and husband. I love them dearly but, in some cases, they may not get my best effort because I am the most comfortable with them. Similar to kids coming home from school. They may have been their best self at school and once they walk through the door, they are demon possessed:) This is a subtle reset reminder to connect with all the people I hold dear!
At my school we do “Positive Shout-Outs” for students and staff. We just reached 900 students for this year! They are acknowledged for making positive choices throughout the school day with a picture, certificate and a call home. We can also give shout outs to teachers when we recognize them making a difference. It doesn’t cost anything but for the school to print it. It is a great feeling to give them and to receive them. I also make sure to tell my students good morning every day when we do lunch count and recognize haircuts, clothing, glasses, how they did in their competition the night before, have conversations etc. I look for signs of happiness or frustration and make sure to ask about it. I like to acknowledge when staff members do great things, but also ask them for help. I think it’s a great compliment to ask for someone’s help. They feel seen and appreciated. I flood everyone with “thank yous”. I also make sure to address any concerns parents have, so they also feel seen. The people that need to be “seen” but not necessarily are, are the principal and vice principal. They have to deal with a lot of the negativity, but don’t always get recognized for all the good they do.
To make sure every student feels seen, I try my best to be intentional about building small and consistent moments of connection each day. That would be greeting students every morning at the door and checking in to see how they are doing. I also notice effort and growth in each student and really try to bring up the ones who might go unnoticed. To make sure my colleagues feel seen, I try and focus on being present and supportive. I check in on them and recognize the work they are doing. Sometimes just listening without judgement can be the best thing. I always try do these because I know that it's exactly what I would want. Others that also need to be seen are student's families, support staff, and even my own friends and family outside of school. It's easy to get caught up in daily responsibilities and overlook people sometimes, but slowing down and being intentional is what will make people feel seen.
Every morning as students are entering the classroom, I stand outside the door and greet them. I try to make sure they are greeted with positivity and them knowing that I am glad they are here! I talk to them in the mornings and make sure I notice any changes (haircuts, outfits, new shoes, ballgames, etc.). We work on Growth Mindset in our classroom a lot. I want the kids to know that our room is a safe environment and we all make mistakes but that is how we learn! I also have a WOW board in my classroom that I use to hold myself accountable to notice the small things. Sometimes it is hard to acknowledge the good students are doing when as a whole class we may be on the struggle bus. The WOW board allows me to give shout outs to those who are doing an awesome job (could be as simple as they got a book out in their downtime instead of being a distraction to their friends who are still working, or even lining up quickly and quietly). This has really been something my students enjoy and pushes me to make sure I notice the small things. I also send home postcards to each of my students in the mail throughout the school year. It is so much fun to hear how excited they are to get mail from me at home and to remind them how awesome they are! At the end of the day I also give each student a choice on their out the door goodbye (hug, high five, fist bump, foot bump, bow, etc.). This lets my students know I love them and am excited for them to return tomorrow!
To make sure my colleagues feel seen, I do my best to be present when I see them. I always say hi in passing and I check in on them when I notice something is up or giving them the positives with the students we share! Our school also does Sunshine Buddies. We each have a secret buddy that we do random things for throughout the year. It can be things such as positive notes, or even little gifts to brighten their day. It has been so much fun to pass along positivity and to remind them of how amazing they are for being here for our kiddos! Beyond the classroom, student's families and my own kiddos need me to see them as they are. As a teacher and a mom, it can sometimes feel impossible to give it all you have in both places. However, I am reminded everyday how much I matter to both my students and my own children and that gives me the strength to be there for them and support them each and every day!
I think it starts with being intentional in small, consistent moments rather than trying to do something big or complicated all at once. In a classroom like mine, where I may have 80+ students, it becomes about building connection over time through simple but meaningful actions. That can include taking a moment to learn small details about each student, acknowledging their birthday, noticing a win outside of school, or remembering something important happening in their life. Starting with those small touchpoints and gradually building on them throughout the year creates a rhythm of connection that feels real to students, even in a busy setting. It doesn’t require extra time in a large way, but it does require being intentional with the moments you already have.
For my colleagues, I can make them feel seen by acknowledging their effort and the difficult work they do every day, as well as sharing positive feedback when I hear it. For example, if I overhear a student say something positive about their class or experience, I can take the time to pass that along to them. I can also make a point to offer genuine praise or encouragement when I notice them handling a tough situation well or going above and beyond for students. Small moments like that can help remind colleagues that their work is noticed and valued.
Beyond students and colleagues, I’ve also noticed that it takes many parts to run a school beyond just teachers or administrators, and a lot of those people don’t always get enough credit. Parents, support staff, custodians, office staff, paraprofessionals, and other members of the school community all play a huge role in making everything function day to day. Taking time to recognize and appreciate them matters just as much.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
I currently have the biggest class I've ever had, so this has been a challenge for me. I've really tried to be intentional every day to greet each and every student with their name and some sort of comment or question and of course telling them I'm so happy to see them at school today! Then at the end of the day as we chaotically get them to the vehicles to go home, I do the same. I let them know we had a great day together and I can't wait to see them tomorrow.
I can make my coworkers feel seem by doing the same thing! We all get so busy and end up almost shutting each other out. I need to be reaching out to regain those relationships and remind us all that we are not just teachers in a classroom. We're regular people with the need for connection.
I think my family needs me to see them as they are. Again we all get busy and tired and overwhelmed and when we get home at the end of the day, it's hard to continue the positive attitude for my own family. I need to prioritize making them feel seen too!
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
You can make sure students feel valued by greeting them by name at the door and try and connect with each student on a daily basis. How was your day? Did you understand your lessons today? Just checking in on them. My coworkers I can do the same. Ask them how was their day. Just show interest in their lives in and out of school. We are always so busy it is nice to just take some time to get to know the people we work with on a daily basis. My family is very important to me. I try to make time for each of them every day. My son, who is grown and moved out of our home I will text or call just to say hello or see how things are going. My mother, (I lost my father earlier this year) I call each night to check in on her. She looks forward to our nightly calls. My husband and I take time to visit each evening to find out about each other's day. This is something I find that is important in my life.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are? I make sure my students feel seen each morning when I greet them at the door! They choose a high five, foot bump, hug, or fist bump. They also feel seen when we have show and tell and author's chair. My students feel seen when they are the teahcer helper and lead calendar time! I try to make sure and listen to them one on one as they share stories or we correct mistakes on math papers. I make my colleagues feel seen when I stop and ask how their day is going or offer help or advice to a new staff member. I make my own children feel seen by talking to them daily even if just a text message. I think it is important to feel seen by someone each day!
The best way I make sure students feel seen is by showing up for them in small but meaningful ways—like attending their activities, noticing what they’re reading and asking about it, or including their favorite snacks in a reward bucket. These moments help them feel valued beyond just academics. When it comes to colleagues, I try to be a good listener and check in when I can. Even small gestures like bringing a “pick-me-up” coffee can let someone know they matter, but I also try to make space for them to feel heard and supported. Outside of school, I also need to remember that my husband needs to feel seen just as he is. Taking the time to really listen, be present, and appreciate him—without trying to fix or change anything—is just as important.
To make my students feel seen, I will try to greet them at the door (if I can) or acknowledge them as they come in the room. I will let fly with the compliments and affirmations to the extreme. I can ask questions and make comments about what they did over break or over the weekend or overnight. Not just smile and say, "Uh huh," but make comments that really show I heard what they said. As far as my collegues go, I really want to focus on appreciating our paras. I have to interact with several different ones a day and I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate them and what they contribute to each class period. Everyone wants to know they are appreciated.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI can make my students feel seen my developing relationships with them, getting to know them and the activities they like to be involved in. I greet them at the door before class and also as they exit. I stand in the hall during passing time, which gives me an opportunity to visit with them outside of class. I can make sure my fellow teachers feel "seen" by simple conversation. I am very lucky in that the staff I work with are a tight knit group. We visit with each other prior to the school day, to see how the evening was and then discuss the upcoming day. We ask about each other's families and how their weekends were. We also have the opportunity to have lunch together on any given school day.
There are numerous ways to make our students feel seen and have relevance in their social world. I teach middle school, and their are always ways to help kids feel seen, especially in the hall-way classroom, extracurricular events, and around town. Give them light-ups about how they are doing, in the things they enjoy. Get to know them and what they like. Take that idea and look to expand on those. I like to give high fives, fist bumps, whacky funny saying the kids have come up with, ect. (with in reason) (common sense). We all need to slow down, in all areas of life. With all relationships, family, coworkers parents of students. Take the time to acknowledge the individual you are speaking to, actually focus and listen to them. Quit multi-tasking for a sincere conversation to happen.
ReplyDeleteI teach middle school and I try to have a little private conversation with each of my students every week to check in and see how they are doing. I have had so many kids with horrible lives and just being there for them and letting them know they can count or come to me anytime hopefully lets them know that they are seen. I love being in the hallway in the mornings and greeting each student who I have or have had. There is nothing better than hearing, "you are/were my favorite teacher". And if they don't like me, I try to kill them with kindness and find the same interests, whether it's their pets, sports teams or other interests.
ReplyDeleteI can make every child be seen by asking them how there day and/or weekend was. I can also make them feel seen by checking in with them about anything they have talked to me about prior. Lastly , I can make them feel seen by talking to them about something I know about them. For example I have my students write down their favorite food at the beginning of the year, I always use this to strike up a conversation. For example "abigail, Stuffed peppers are one of my favorites too!"
ReplyDeleteI can make my colleagues feel seen by asking them how their family is and how their weekend was. I also try and check in with them over break by saying things such as "I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas". I also try to bake goodies for my colleagues once a year.
I feel like admin also wants me to see them for who they are, and people tend to forget this!
I try to make my students be seen by using their names when I see them. It helps to show them that they are important enough to me to learn who they are. I try to build connections and tend to build them the most quickly with "those students". I try making my colleagues seen by asking them questions about their home life or listen to them if they need to get something off their shoulders. I make sure every time I see our grumbly night custodian or shy tech person, that I say hi to them and use their name.
ReplyDeleteI can make sure my first grade students feel seen by greeting them each day as they come into the classroom. A smile and each name said as they arrive. I can allow for time to listen to what is going on in their little lives at home. What are their favorite things? What did they do over the weekend or what are they going to do the next weekend? I can celebrate the little wins as each one conquer another milestone in the classroom academically. I can schedule lunch dates with my students to allow them to have individual attention periodically. I can send notes home to guardians when I see students show kindness, or are helpful or any other positive behavior.
ReplyDeleteI can ensure that my colleagues feel 'seen' by making eye contact in the hallway. Acknowledge them in the day to day tasks and decisions. I can take a recess duty for them when I notice they are overwhelmed or having a difficult day. Leaving them encouraging notes when I see how hard they are working or how involved they are in the education of their students.
My husband and children NEED me to see them just as they are and notice the positive things they contribute to our home and family.
There are several ways I try to make sure every single one of my students feel seen by me. I start the day in the hallway and greet the students as they enter the room. I say good morning along with their name, and then I try to throw some little fact out to them so they know I care about them (How did you basketball game go last night? I saw your favorite football team won! Did you have fun at your club meeting? What did you learn new in Boys Scouts?). I also hand out sheets of paper about once a week that says "I wish my teacher knew...." and they finish the sentence and hand it in to me. Some students will just say something pretty simple, while other students will go into detail about something. I will also tell them that if they would like to talk to me about it in person to write that on there so I can pull them aside some time in private and we can discuss it or I can get them to the corresponding person to talk about whatever they wrote down. Another way, at the end of the day I go around and "sign" planners and do a daily check in. I have short conversations with each student to check in on the day and talk about upcoming events they might have coming up. My colleagues and I were pretty close, we would all stand in the hallways together in the morning before the students would come and talk about life in general. During the day during plan time we would always touch base and make sure we always had ongoing communication. Most importantly, my family needs to see me just as I am. For this reason, I am taking a break in teaching so I can be fully present with my family.
ReplyDeleteMaking students feel seen starts with greeting them by name, noticing things about them, mentioning I watched their sporting event. I try to make sure I notice when things seem "off" and try to lend an ear. I try to celebrate effort and little achievements. I send a letter to 2 students every week thanking them. Being seen is about consistent, everyday moments of connection. For my colleagues to be seen, I try to peek in and say Hi to all 4 of them each morning. I try to get to know their families and children and ask about them. Probably the person that needs me to see them the most is my husband, Jim. We both work long hours and are tired and sometimes just go through the motions.
ReplyDeleteI only teach one class, General Business. I always start out my year with spending a lot of time getting to know my students. I like to find out their goals for the year, family information and future plans. I will often ask them about these things throughout the year so they know that I listened and care. I usually ask the students about their weekend plans on a Friday and then follow up on Monday to see how their weekend went and how their plans turned out. I know who is involved in different activities and make sure to wish them luck, whether that is for their play competition, band concert, or athletic event. I work in a very small school and when I'm not teaching this class, I'm the administrative assistant in the office. I know all the kids in grades JK - 12. When I see them in the hallway I try to acknowledge them by name. The younger light up when they hear their name. For staff I try to do a shout out for those that did something for me or if I witnesses something they did for a student. We have a shout out board in our elementary where you can post these. I like to do thank you notes for my admin team. I feel that they often don't hear the good they are doing enough so I try to make sure they know I see them. I also like to acknowledge how awesome our cooks and custodian are. I make signs and have the students sign them or I make sure the kids sing happy birthday to them. I try to give more compliments throughout the day. If I'm ever having a bad day I just need to go to the elementary end of the building. Those kids always make you feel good about yourself with their compliments on my clothes, shoes, hair, jewelry, etc. They do a great job of lighting me up!
ReplyDeleteI teach 2nd grade, my students in age are typically 7-8 years old. They love hugs, they love compliments, they love to please. They participate, they socialize, they connect with each other. I have 27 students this year, one of my largest classes. These students have been together for 3 years as we live in a small community. They've been able to build/create friendships for years. That being said, students have connections made with their peers and have been building this for 3+ years. I try to connect with my students daily, sometimes hourly & at times to the minute. I came late to the 'game' as these students have build connections for years & here I come in the 'newbie' to the game. At the beginning of the school year, I build connections outside. The first month of the school year I like to take my kids outside when no other class is outside. We swing, slide, throw the football and begin building connections. I think it's important to build that connection begins at school, but not necessarily in the classroom. I find that students share & open up more when the setting isn't as formal as their classroom. I also like to show up at my students events (sports games, dance/piano recital). Although I'm only their teacher for 10 months, I want to show them that I am interested in more than their academics. I care about their whole being and it helps build that connection. Even helping students set goals and checking in on their goals, has also helped build connection. This shows them I care how their moving towards their goal. The school I work at has 2 sides for each grade, so we are a smaller school. It's easier to make sure colleagues are 'seen', but at times our days are so busy that I can go all day and not see my neighbor teachers. In the morning, all of the lower pod teachers stand in the common area & wait for our students. While we are waiting we take the time to connect and check in with one another. That last question is a powerful one & I know the answer right away. My 3 children need me to see them, just the way they are. It's hard to separate the parent/teacher role, so at times, I try the teacher role, when it should be the parent role. It's tough to separate those roles specifically because they are 'my' kids too. When they feel seen, they will rise.
ReplyDeleteI greet each of my students as they arrive on the playground or in my classroom. I work hard to learn about them including their likes, their family, pets, special interests etc. Preschoolers are almost always excited to share something, so giving them the opportunity to speak & share something exciting lets them know they matter and builds a relationship with not only me, but their classmates.
ReplyDeleteChecking in with my co-workers both personally (how did your daughter's game go) & professionally through collaboration and idea sharing lets them feel & know they are seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI make sure every single one of my students feel ‘seen’ by greeting them at the door each morning. During soft start, I will go around my room and talk with students about their morning or listen to things that they share with me. I take the first 15 minutes of the day to get the students settled and to greet and talk with students in the morning.
I make sure my colleagues ‘seen’ by giving them support if they come to me for help or if they need advice. I also try connect with them personally and ask how they are doing.
To make students feel "seen", I try to do the following:
ReplyDelete1. Creating a Welcoming Classroom- when students walk in, I greet them, but not necessarily by name. (As a sub, I definitely try to learn names but it's always a work in progress).
2. Build Trust- I value allowing students to feel comfortable to express themselves. When students trust you, it makes for a way more relaxed environment.
3. Engage in conversations- I encourage conversations with students asking about their extra curriculum activities and daily life's.
"Seeing" Co-workers:
1. Recognize Hard Work- appreciating teachers for their hard work and contributions towards students and their learning.
2. Greet by name- Learn names so you can say hello and acknowledge them.
I feel anyone would appreciate being seen like school secretaries, paras, and administration.
I see 130some students on a daily basis. Making sure every single one of them feels 'seen' has always been a daunting task as I see them for 40 minutes max and then send them on their way to the next class. I make a conscious effort to connect with those students who don't seem to have a "group". I have one girl who is quieter than any other student I have ever had. In the hall, during passing time, I try to ask her about the book in her hand or anything else I can come up with. If I am lucky, I will get a short whispered response, but normally just a head nod. I hope she feels seen even if there isn't much of a response. My colleagues chat in the halls between classes and have lunch together, catching up on each other lives.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI teach BK-5 elementary pe and so I am lucky enough to know each and every student in our school. I always greet them at the gym doors and say hello/good morning/good afternoon/how are you. I compliment the students and encourage them all the time. I ask the students what activities they are involved in outside of school and for updates on how all of that is going. They know I'm a Packers fan and I have a lot of students that are also Packers fan and that has formed a cool bond between us. I have a fitness challenge facebook page where I also encourage the students and can see what types of activities they are doing.
As for my colleagues, I am a social person and I make a conscious effort to talk to each of them as they drop off/pick up their students and give them encouragement either in person, with a note, or send a text message. Like the book says, we all need connection and making others feel "seen" definitely builds that connection. It also makes going to school more fun when those connections are made.
We always seem to get new students throughout the year and those are the ones that I try to make them feel extra seen so that they feel comfortable in class and can start to build relationships.
How can I make sure my students feel seen? Here are some of the things I do to do this.
ReplyDelete1) Use their names and greet them. This can be done at the door or during work time. I try to address every student by name every day.
2) Have a conversation with students. I try to have one conversation per week for each student. These can be brief. I will ask them about their basketball game next week, how their weekend went etc.
3) Attend extracurricular activities. To me, this one is non-negotiable. Every teacher should attend at least one of every school activity per year. I work all of the home sporting events at our school and my wife (also a teacher) attend school plays, concerts and other activities. Students enjoy being supported and seeing adults take an interest in their activities. It also gives you something to have a conversation with a student about later.
Teachers who do these things will have almost no discipline problems in their classes. Teachers who struggle with discipline almost never do.
As a high school librarian, making sure every student feels “seen” begins with creating a library space where all students feel welcome, respected, and comfortable being themselves. High school students are at a stage where they are forming their identities and interests, so I try to learn their names, ask about their activities, and remember the types of books or topics they enjoy—whether that’s graphic novels, sports biographies, fantasy series, or resources for college and career planning. I also try to notice when students come in looking stressed about assignments, college applications, or personal challenges and offer encouragement or help finding reliable information. Making colleagues feel “seen” means listening to their ideas, sharing helpful resources for their classes, and recognizing the effort they put into supporting students every day. Beyond students and teachers, it’s also important to notice those who may feel overlooked in a busy high school—new students, quieter students who spend time in the library between classes, paraprofessionals, custodial staff, and office staff. When we take time to acknowledge people, listen to them, and value their contributions, we help create a school environment where everyone feels that they belong.
ReplyDeleteAs an ECSE teacher, I make sure every student feels seen by taking the time to learn about their interests, abilities, and emotions. I greet them personally, notice their efforts, validate their feelings, and celebrate even small accomplishments. I provide opportunities for choice and voice so they know their thoughts and preferences matter. I make sure each child and their family is represented in my room.
ReplyDeleteFor colleagues, I make them feel seen by actively listening, acknowledging their contributions, offering support, and showing appreciation for their expertise and efforts.
Other people who need to be seen just as they are include families, administrators, and support staff. I can do this by building genuine relationships, respecting their perspectives, and demonstrating care and understanding in all interactions.
To make sure my students feel seen, I focus on building positive relationships with them. I make sure to say good morning and say their names when they walk in each day. During our morning circle, I give each of them time to share something with the class, or just me if they prefer. I notice when my students are working hard and trying their best. When one of my students is struggling with something, I give them time to calm down and take a break. I allow them an opportunity to visit if they want to. With students I have had in the past, when I see them in the hallways, I make sure to make eye-contact and say "hi". If times allows, I will visit a little more. Even after students aren't in my class anymore, I want them to know I still see them.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I check in with them. I ask them how it’s going or just how their day went. When a colleague comes to me with something they are struggling with, I make sure to be a good listener. I will usually follow up with a text message or a card reminding them that they are a great teacher, and that they are making a difference every single day. And sometimes leaving coffee or chocolate helps too. I also try to make sure others in the school such as paraprofessionals, administrators, cooks, janitors, and secretaries feel seen. I think just by saying by hi, listening, and thank you for all you do, can say a lot and shows appreciation.
Lastly, my family are people that need to be seen just as they are. On tough days this is something I have to remind myself of. This can be hard, because in families we sometimes have different opinions on varying topics, but ultimately, they are the one’s I love the most, and the ones who support me the most, so making them feel seen has to be a priority.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI can make sure all of my students feel seen by having real conversations with each of them. This is tough at the high school level where I have over 100 students a semester so I need to make sure I take advantage of the quick moments where I can dig into their interests. It could be a 30 second conversation, but if I can show them later that I remember something about them from our quick conversation, they will be seen.
With my colleagues, I can listen and not just wait for my turn to talk. This is harder for me than it sounds but it is critical. If things are going well, I need to be able to hear them and acknowledge them. If someone does something great or even good I can acknowledge it and let them know that I noticed. We all want to be seen.
My family also needs to be seen. My kids and my wife (and even my dog) need to know that I hear them and see them and understand their triumphs and their struggles. I want to make sure they don't feel alone in their low moments. I want to be there for them whenever I can be and show them that I see them.
I believe building good relationships with my students is the most important way to make them feel seen. I start by greeting them every morning by the door. I give compliments to them about their hair, clothes, shoes, activities, etc. Noticing when something is “off” for them or their mood is different and finding out that problem is huge, too. Discovering who they are outside of school and interacting with them during the day can really show that we care and they matter to us.
ReplyDeleteChecking in with colleagues is an important aspect of showing them you see them and hear them. Offering support and recognizing their hard work and dedication. Teaching can be very emotionally draining and challenging so it’s important to make sure your colleagues are surviving.
And beyond the classroom, we have our families, our spouses, our friends, and anyone we see outside of the school. Everyone is fighting some sort of silent battle we know nothing about. Doing a random act of kindness, even just a simple smile or hello, can change someone’s day and make them feel seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteStudents: Listening to them. Not just saying, "okay", but really listening to them. Following up with them and what they told you. Let them know that you really care about them. Currently, I have a step count competition with four students in one of my second grade classes. Yesterday I was on a walk and saw one of the four students at the park. They yelled across the park, "Mrs. Garcia what is your step count!". It's so fun to have connections with kids where they feel comfortable talking to you across the playground outside of school!
Colleagues: Talking will them and being a listening ear. Man, teaching can be tough. There are a variety of different behaviors that can a be tricky day in and day out and it can honestly be draining. Allowing our colleagues to vent or rant about something that is bothering and them knowing that you are a safe place for them and they know that you will not tell anyone.
Family: Being present with your family. Phones are the worst! I really try to make it a point to put my phone in a different room when I am with my family and kids. I want my kids and my husband to know that the time that I am with them is all for them, not for the screen. My husband and I try to get outside with our kids as much as we can. Obviously, the blizzard Monday kept us inside, but otherwise, when it is nice out we try to get out and be active with our children. We enjoy playing games and doing things that they like to do.
I will be in the hallway between classes and in the morning I will greet as many kids as I can and tell them to have a great day. I also ask kids how their day is going. I think eye contact with kids is important and actively listening to them. When they have a concern or issue, I want them to know that I care and will help them anyway I can. I also make sure I congratulate them when I hear good news about them.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI feel like this is an area I excel in. I am a very deeply feeling type of person. I am able to talk to anyone and make them feel included easily. I make friends easily.
With my students, I greet them at the door each morning. They can choose their morning greeting which is -hug, fist bump, high five. I never skip this step, we do the same at the end of the day. I attend their extracurriculurs when I can. I make sure to ask them about their interests and continue to ask them throughout the year. My kids know they are loved and I care so deeply about each one of them.
I would say I am gifted in this area. I also make sure my school, supervisors, anyone knows that they matter to me. That I genuinely care about their well being.
I think everyone needs to know they matter. No one should be excluded. Everyone should matter greatly.
I can make my students feel see by saying their name, giving them a compliment, or giving them small pockets of my time. The first point, saying their name, might seem like a simple tasks but I have a large number of students on my roster and it’s easy for them to get lost in the shuffle. I think the same rings true for my colleagues. We all are busy with our ever-mounting workload but taking the time to check in on one another is so important. This was a great reminder that my family also needs to feel seen by me. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life but setting aside intentional time with my immediate family is critical.
ReplyDeleteI try to make sure my students feel seen by being the person at the door every single morning. It’s a small thing, but using their names and noticing something like a new pair of shoes or asking how a specific club meeting went makes a huge difference. I want them to know I’m not just waiting for them to sit down and start working, but that I’m genuinely glad they’re in the room.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to colleagues, I really want to focus on acknowledging our paras and support staff. They do so much of the heavy lifting in our classrooms, and it’s easy for that to go unnoticed in the middle of a busy day.
To make kids feel seen, they need to see you, they need to hear you, they need to know that you are there for them, building connections and learning about them. I greet my kids in the halls as they are transitioning from one class to the next. I try to be a funny guy in class with jokes and sayings that my students can relate to. Connecting with students as they work on wood projects and need that one-on-one help and compliment them as their projects come together beautifully.
ReplyDeleteConnecting with colleagues is probably one area that I could improve on. Although we have a pretty small staff and a lot of us have been here for some time, I get busy in my shop and don't make my way out of it at times. I do have a few good buddies who like to play jokes and tricks on each other and I feel that is sometimes a good check-in but to really "SEE" how they are doing, I definitely could improve on that.
Making sure every student feels “seen” starts with small, consistent actions; taking the time to get to know them and their interests. Greeting them every morning. Listening when they speak, noticing their efforts, and valuing who they are both inside and outside the classroom.
ReplyDeleteCo-workers feel “seen” when we acknowledge their hard work, check in on them, and offer support to them.
Beyond the classroom, students’ families, support staff, and even those who seem quiet or overlooked need to be seen just as they are. When we truly see people, we build trust, connection, and a stronger school community
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteTo help my students feel seen, comes down to small, consistent actions rather than big gestures. The biggest thing for me being an ELL teacher, is learning and using their names correctly. For example, Jesus (Hey-seuss, Xareni, (Ha-wren-e) and Arantxa (Ah-ron-s-ah). Another thing to make sure my students feel seen is to notice their effort, not just their outcomes. I need to pay attention to what excites or frustrates them, and reflect. Doing these things lets them know that they matter.
For my colleagues, feeling seen is similar but very often overlooked. I can try to acknowledge their contributions privately and/or publicly. I can also listen without immediately trying to fix or respond, and respect their time, boundaries, and working styles. Even a simple, genuine check-in can go a long way. You never what they are going through and hearing from you can make their day.
Other people who need to be seen could be the quiet person in the room who rarely gets acknowledged, someone who is struggling but covering it up well, a difficult student whose behavior might be covering something deeper, and even yourself needs to be seen. A lot of times I put everyone else before me and choose myself last, which then puts more stress on me. This is something that I need to change for myself and my mental health.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI would like to start by saying, I really enjoyed that TED Talk by Jody Carrington. I think to make everyone of your students feel seen, you have to have a genuine connection. (What a powerful statement by the coach that refers to getting his hockey players to skate faster because he knows the name of their dog.) That means, you have to care, care enough to learn about them and the things that they care about. I think that is similar to how you would make your co-workers feel seen. Connection to a person has to be genuine and sincere. There is no faking that. The other people in my life are probably the most important and because they my children and husband. I love them dearly but, in some cases, they may not get my best effort because I am the most comfortable with them. Similar to kids coming home from school. They may have been their best self at school and once they walk through the door, they are demon possessed:) This is a subtle reset reminder to connect with all the people I hold dear!
At my school we do “Positive Shout-Outs” for students and staff. We just reached 900 students for this year! They are acknowledged for making positive choices throughout the school day with a picture, certificate and a call home. We can also give shout outs to teachers when we recognize them making a difference. It doesn’t cost anything but for the school to print it. It is a great feeling to give them and to receive them. I also make sure to tell my students good morning every day when we do lunch count and recognize haircuts, clothing, glasses, how they did in their competition the night before, have conversations etc. I look for signs of happiness or frustration and make sure to ask about it. I like to acknowledge when staff members do great things, but also ask them for help. I think it’s a great compliment to ask for someone’s help. They feel seen and appreciated. I flood everyone with “thank yous”. I also make sure to address any concerns parents have, so they also feel seen. The people that need to be “seen” but not necessarily are, are the principal and vice principal. They have to deal with a lot of the negativity, but don’t always get recognized for all the good they do.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure every student feels seen, I try my best to be intentional about building small and consistent moments of connection each day. That would be greeting students every morning at the door and checking in to see how they are doing. I also notice effort and growth in each student and really try to bring up the ones who might go unnoticed.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I try and focus on being present and supportive. I check in on them and recognize the work they are doing. Sometimes just listening without judgement can be the best thing. I always try do these because I know that it's exactly what I would want.
Others that also need to be seen are student's families, support staff, and even my own friends and family outside of school. It's easy to get caught up in daily responsibilities and overlook people sometimes, but slowing down and being intentional is what will make people feel seen.
Every morning as students are entering the classroom, I stand outside the door and greet them. I try to make sure they are greeted with positivity and them knowing that I am glad they are here! I talk to them in the mornings and make sure I notice any changes (haircuts, outfits, new shoes, ballgames, etc.). We work on Growth Mindset in our classroom a lot. I want the kids to know that our room is a safe environment and we all make mistakes but that is how we learn! I also have a WOW board in my classroom that I use to hold myself accountable to notice the small things. Sometimes it is hard to acknowledge the good students are doing when as a whole class we may be on the struggle bus. The WOW board allows me to give shout outs to those who are doing an awesome job (could be as simple as they got a book out in their downtime instead of being a distraction to their friends who are still working, or even lining up quickly and quietly). This has really been something my students enjoy and pushes me to make sure I notice the small things. I also send home postcards to each of my students in the mail throughout the school year. It is so much fun to hear how excited they are to get mail from me at home and to remind them how awesome they are! At the end of the day I also give each student a choice on their out the door goodbye (hug, high five, fist bump, foot bump, bow, etc.). This lets my students know I love them and am excited for them to return tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I do my best to be present when I see them. I always say hi in passing and I check in on them when I notice something is up or giving them the positives with the students we share! Our school also does Sunshine Buddies. We each have a secret buddy that we do random things for throughout the year. It can be things such as positive notes, or even little gifts to brighten their day. It has been so much fun to pass along positivity and to remind them of how amazing they are for being here for our kiddos!
Beyond the classroom, student's families and my own kiddos need me to see them as they are. As a teacher and a mom, it can sometimes feel impossible to give it all you have in both places. However, I am reminded everyday how much I matter to both my students and my own children and that gives me the strength to be there for them and support them each and every day!
I think it starts with being intentional in small, consistent moments rather than trying to do something big or complicated all at once. In a classroom like mine, where I may have 80+ students, it becomes about building connection over time through simple but meaningful actions. That can include taking a moment to learn small details about each student, acknowledging their birthday, noticing a win outside of school, or remembering something important happening in their life. Starting with those small touchpoints and gradually building on them throughout the year creates a rhythm of connection that feels real to students, even in a busy setting. It doesn’t require extra time in a large way, but it does require being intentional with the moments you already have.
ReplyDeleteFor my colleagues, I can make them feel seen by acknowledging their effort and the difficult work they do every day, as well as sharing positive feedback when I hear it. For example, if I overhear a student say something positive about their class or experience, I can take the time to pass that along to them. I can also make a point to offer genuine praise or encouragement when I notice them handling a tough situation well or going above and beyond for students. Small moments like that can help remind colleagues that their work is noticed and valued.
Beyond students and colleagues, I’ve also noticed that it takes many parts to run a school beyond just teachers or administrators, and a lot of those people don’t always get enough credit. Parents, support staff, custodians, office staff, paraprofessionals, and other members of the school community all play a huge role in making everything function day to day. Taking time to recognize and appreciate them matters just as much.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI currently have the biggest class I've ever had, so this has been a challenge for me. I've really tried to be intentional every day to greet each and every student with their name and some sort of comment or question and of course telling them I'm so happy to see them at school today! Then at the end of the day as we chaotically get them to the vehicles to go home, I do the same. I let them know we had a great day together and I can't wait to see them tomorrow.
I can make my coworkers feel seem by doing the same thing! We all get so busy and end up almost shutting each other out. I need to be reaching out to regain those relationships and remind us all that we are not just teachers in a classroom. We're regular people with the need for connection.
I think my family needs me to see them as they are. Again we all get busy and tired and overwhelmed and when we get home at the end of the day, it's hard to continue the positive attitude for my own family. I need to prioritize making them feel seen too!
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteYou can make sure students feel valued by greeting them by name at the door and try and connect with each student on a daily basis. How was your day? Did you understand your lessons today? Just checking in on them.
My coworkers I can do the same. Ask them how was their day. Just show interest in their lives in and out of school. We are always so busy it is nice to just take some time to get to know the people we work with on a daily basis.
My family is very important to me. I try to make time for each of them every day. My son, who is grown and moved out of our home I will text or call just to say hello or see how things are going. My mother, (I lost my father earlier this year) I call each night to check in on her. She looks forward to our nightly calls. My husband and I take time to visit each evening to find out about each other's day. This is something I find that is important in my life.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI make sure my students feel seen each morning when I greet them at the door! They choose a high five, foot bump, hug, or fist bump. They also feel seen when we have show and tell and author's chair. My students feel seen when they are the teahcer helper and lead calendar time! I try to make sure and listen to them one on one as they share stories or we correct mistakes on math papers. I make my colleagues feel seen when I stop and ask how their day is going or offer help or advice to a new staff member. I make my own children feel seen by talking to them daily even if just a text message. I think it is important to feel seen by someone each day!
Kelsey Berletic
ReplyDeleteThe best way I make sure students feel seen is by showing up for them in small but meaningful ways—like attending their activities, noticing what they’re reading and asking about it, or including their favorite snacks in a reward bucket. These moments help them feel valued beyond just academics.
When it comes to colleagues, I try to be a good listener and check in when I can. Even small gestures like bringing a “pick-me-up” coffee can let someone know they matter, but I also try to make space for them to feel heard and supported.
Outside of school, I also need to remember that my husband needs to feel seen just as he is. Taking the time to really listen, be present, and appreciate him—without trying to fix or change anything—is just as important.