Blog Post #4
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
Blog Post #2
“Perception is a powerful tool. Students will learn more from you than opening a book.” What do you hope your students are learning from you? (Your answer should not contain content-related examples such as, ‘I’m a math teacher so I hope my students are learning math from me.’) What do your students learn by watching you? What did you learn simply by observing some of your own teachers, both the good and the bad?
To make my students feel seen, I will try to greet them at the door (if I can) or acknowledge them as they come in the room. I will let fly with the compliments and affirmations to the extreme. I can ask questions and make comments about what they did over break or over the weekend or overnight. Not just smile and say, "Uh huh," but make comments that really show I heard what they said. As far as my collegues go, I really want to focus on appreciating our paras. I have to interact with several different ones a day and I want to make sure they know how much I appreciate them and what they contribute to each class period. Everyone wants to know they are appreciated.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI can make my students feel seen my developing relationships with them, getting to know them and the activities they like to be involved in. I greet them at the door before class and also as they exit. I stand in the hall during passing time, which gives me an opportunity to visit with them outside of class. I can make sure my fellow teachers feel "seen" by simple conversation. I am very lucky in that the staff I work with are a tight knit group. We visit with each other prior to the school day, to see how the evening was and then discuss the upcoming day. We ask about each other's families and how their weekends were. We also have the opportunity to have lunch together on any given school day.
There are numerous ways to make our students feel seen and have relevance in their social world. I teach middle school, and their are always ways to help kids feel seen, especially in the hall-way classroom, extracurricular events, and around town. Give them light-ups about how they are doing, in the things they enjoy. Get to know them and what they like. Take that idea and look to expand on those. I like to give high fives, fist bumps, whacky funny saying the kids have come up with, ect. (with in reason) (common sense). We all need to slow down, in all areas of life. With all relationships, family, coworkers parents of students. Take the time to acknowledge the individual you are speaking to, actually focus and listen to them. Quit multi-tasking for a sincere conversation to happen.
ReplyDeleteI teach middle school and I try to have a little private conversation with each of my students every week to check in and see how they are doing. I have had so many kids with horrible lives and just being there for them and letting them know they can count or come to me anytime hopefully lets them know that they are seen. I love being in the hallway in the mornings and greeting each student who I have or have had. There is nothing better than hearing, "you are/were my favorite teacher". And if they don't like me, I try to kill them with kindness and find the same interests, whether it's their pets, sports teams or other interests.
ReplyDeleteI can make every child be seen by asking them how there day and/or weekend was. I can also make them feel seen by checking in with them about anything they have talked to me about prior. Lastly , I can make them feel seen by talking to them about something I know about them. For example I have my students write down their favorite food at the beginning of the year, I always use this to strike up a conversation. For example "abigail, Stuffed peppers are one of my favorites too!"
ReplyDeleteI can make my colleagues feel seen by asking them how their family is and how their weekend was. I also try and check in with them over break by saying things such as "I hope you and your family have a Merry Christmas". I also try to bake goodies for my colleagues once a year.
I feel like admin also wants me to see them for who they are, and people tend to forget this!
I try to make my students be seen by using their names when I see them. It helps to show them that they are important enough to me to learn who they are. I try to build connections and tend to build them the most quickly with "those students". I try making my colleagues seen by asking them questions about their home life or listen to them if they need to get something off their shoulders. I make sure every time I see our grumbly night custodian or shy tech person, that I say hi to them and use their name.
ReplyDeleteI can make sure my first grade students feel seen by greeting them each day as they come into the classroom. A smile and each name said as they arrive. I can allow for time to listen to what is going on in their little lives at home. What are their favorite things? What did they do over the weekend or what are they going to do the next weekend? I can celebrate the little wins as each one conquer another milestone in the classroom academically. I can schedule lunch dates with my students to allow them to have individual attention periodically. I can send notes home to guardians when I see students show kindness, or are helpful or any other positive behavior.
ReplyDeleteI can ensure that my colleagues feel 'seen' by making eye contact in the hallway. Acknowledge them in the day to day tasks and decisions. I can take a recess duty for them when I notice they are overwhelmed or having a difficult day. Leaving them encouraging notes when I see how hard they are working or how involved they are in the education of their students.
My husband and children NEED me to see them just as they are and notice the positive things they contribute to our home and family.
There are several ways I try to make sure every single one of my students feel seen by me. I start the day in the hallway and greet the students as they enter the room. I say good morning along with their name, and then I try to throw some little fact out to them so they know I care about them (How did you basketball game go last night? I saw your favorite football team won! Did you have fun at your club meeting? What did you learn new in Boys Scouts?). I also hand out sheets of paper about once a week that says "I wish my teacher knew...." and they finish the sentence and hand it in to me. Some students will just say something pretty simple, while other students will go into detail about something. I will also tell them that if they would like to talk to me about it in person to write that on there so I can pull them aside some time in private and we can discuss it or I can get them to the corresponding person to talk about whatever they wrote down. Another way, at the end of the day I go around and "sign" planners and do a daily check in. I have short conversations with each student to check in on the day and talk about upcoming events they might have coming up. My colleagues and I were pretty close, we would all stand in the hallways together in the morning before the students would come and talk about life in general. During the day during plan time we would always touch base and make sure we always had ongoing communication. Most importantly, my family needs to see me just as I am. For this reason, I am taking a break in teaching so I can be fully present with my family.
ReplyDeleteMaking students feel seen starts with greeting them by name, noticing things about them, mentioning I watched their sporting event. I try to make sure I notice when things seem "off" and try to lend an ear. I try to celebrate effort and little achievements. I send a letter to 2 students every week thanking them. Being seen is about consistent, everyday moments of connection. For my colleagues to be seen, I try to peek in and say Hi to all 4 of them each morning. I try to get to know their families and children and ask about them. Probably the person that needs me to see them the most is my husband, Jim. We both work long hours and are tired and sometimes just go through the motions.
ReplyDeleteI only teach one class, General Business. I always start out my year with spending a lot of time getting to know my students. I like to find out their goals for the year, family information and future plans. I will often ask them about these things throughout the year so they know that I listened and care. I usually ask the students about their weekend plans on a Friday and then follow up on Monday to see how their weekend went and how their plans turned out. I know who is involved in different activities and make sure to wish them luck, whether that is for their play competition, band concert, or athletic event. I work in a very small school and when I'm not teaching this class, I'm the administrative assistant in the office. I know all the kids in grades JK - 12. When I see them in the hallway I try to acknowledge them by name. The younger light up when they hear their name. For staff I try to do a shout out for those that did something for me or if I witnesses something they did for a student. We have a shout out board in our elementary where you can post these. I like to do thank you notes for my admin team. I feel that they often don't hear the good they are doing enough so I try to make sure they know I see them. I also like to acknowledge how awesome our cooks and custodian are. I make signs and have the students sign them or I make sure the kids sing happy birthday to them. I try to give more compliments throughout the day. If I'm ever having a bad day I just need to go to the elementary end of the building. Those kids always make you feel good about yourself with their compliments on my clothes, shoes, hair, jewelry, etc. They do a great job of lighting me up!
ReplyDeleteI teach 2nd grade, my students in age are typically 7-8 years old. They love hugs, they love compliments, they love to please. They participate, they socialize, they connect with each other. I have 27 students this year, one of my largest classes. These students have been together for 3 years as we live in a small community. They've been able to build/create friendships for years. That being said, students have connections made with their peers and have been building this for 3+ years. I try to connect with my students daily, sometimes hourly & at times to the minute. I came late to the 'game' as these students have build connections for years & here I come in the 'newbie' to the game. At the beginning of the school year, I build connections outside. The first month of the school year I like to take my kids outside when no other class is outside. We swing, slide, throw the football and begin building connections. I think it's important to build that connection begins at school, but not necessarily in the classroom. I find that students share & open up more when the setting isn't as formal as their classroom. I also like to show up at my students events (sports games, dance/piano recital). Although I'm only their teacher for 10 months, I want to show them that I am interested in more than their academics. I care about their whole being and it helps build that connection. Even helping students set goals and checking in on their goals, has also helped build connection. This shows them I care how their moving towards their goal. The school I work at has 2 sides for each grade, so we are a smaller school. It's easier to make sure colleagues are 'seen', but at times our days are so busy that I can go all day and not see my neighbor teachers. In the morning, all of the lower pod teachers stand in the common area & wait for our students. While we are waiting we take the time to connect and check in with one another. That last question is a powerful one & I know the answer right away. My 3 children need me to see them, just the way they are. It's hard to separate the parent/teacher role, so at times, I try the teacher role, when it should be the parent role. It's tough to separate those roles specifically because they are 'my' kids too. When they feel seen, they will rise.
ReplyDeleteI greet each of my students as they arrive on the playground or in my classroom. I work hard to learn about them including their likes, their family, pets, special interests etc. Preschoolers are almost always excited to share something, so giving them the opportunity to speak & share something exciting lets them know they matter and builds a relationship with not only me, but their classmates.
ReplyDeleteChecking in with my co-workers both personally (how did your daughter's game go) & professionally through collaboration and idea sharing lets them feel & know they are seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI make sure every single one of my students feel ‘seen’ by greeting them at the door each morning. During soft start, I will go around my room and talk with students about their morning or listen to things that they share with me. I take the first 15 minutes of the day to get the students settled and to greet and talk with students in the morning.
I make sure my colleagues ‘seen’ by giving them support if they come to me for help or if they need advice. I also try connect with them personally and ask how they are doing.
To make students feel "seen", I try to do the following:
ReplyDelete1. Creating a Welcoming Classroom- when students walk in, I greet them, but not necessarily by name. (As a sub, I definitely try to learn names but it's always a work in progress).
2. Build Trust- I value allowing students to feel comfortable to express themselves. When students trust you, it makes for a way more relaxed environment.
3. Engage in conversations- I encourage conversations with students asking about their extra curriculum activities and daily life's.
"Seeing" Co-workers:
1. Recognize Hard Work- appreciating teachers for their hard work and contributions towards students and their learning.
2. Greet by name- Learn names so you can say hello and acknowledge them.
I feel anyone would appreciate being seen like school secretaries, paras, and administration.
I see 130some students on a daily basis. Making sure every single one of them feels 'seen' has always been a daunting task as I see them for 40 minutes max and then send them on their way to the next class. I make a conscious effort to connect with those students who don't seem to have a "group". I have one girl who is quieter than any other student I have ever had. In the hall, during passing time, I try to ask her about the book in her hand or anything else I can come up with. If I am lucky, I will get a short whispered response, but normally just a head nod. I hope she feels seen even if there isn't much of a response. My colleagues chat in the halls between classes and have lunch together, catching up on each other lives.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI teach BK-5 elementary pe and so I am lucky enough to know each and every student in our school. I always greet them at the gym doors and say hello/good morning/good afternoon/how are you. I compliment the students and encourage them all the time. I ask the students what activities they are involved in outside of school and for updates on how all of that is going. They know I'm a Packers fan and I have a lot of students that are also Packers fan and that has formed a cool bond between us. I have a fitness challenge facebook page where I also encourage the students and can see what types of activities they are doing.
As for my colleagues, I am a social person and I make a conscious effort to talk to each of them as they drop off/pick up their students and give them encouragement either in person, with a note, or send a text message. Like the book says, we all need connection and making others feel "seen" definitely builds that connection. It also makes going to school more fun when those connections are made.
We always seem to get new students throughout the year and those are the ones that I try to make them feel extra seen so that they feel comfortable in class and can start to build relationships.
How can I make sure my students feel seen? Here are some of the things I do to do this.
ReplyDelete1) Use their names and greet them. This can be done at the door or during work time. I try to address every student by name every day.
2) Have a conversation with students. I try to have one conversation per week for each student. These can be brief. I will ask them about their basketball game next week, how their weekend went etc.
3) Attend extracurricular activities. To me, this one is non-negotiable. Every teacher should attend at least one of every school activity per year. I work all of the home sporting events at our school and my wife (also a teacher) attend school plays, concerts and other activities. Students enjoy being supported and seeing adults take an interest in their activities. It also gives you something to have a conversation with a student about later.
Teachers who do these things will have almost no discipline problems in their classes. Teachers who struggle with discipline almost never do.
As a high school librarian, making sure every student feels “seen” begins with creating a library space where all students feel welcome, respected, and comfortable being themselves. High school students are at a stage where they are forming their identities and interests, so I try to learn their names, ask about their activities, and remember the types of books or topics they enjoy—whether that’s graphic novels, sports biographies, fantasy series, or resources for college and career planning. I also try to notice when students come in looking stressed about assignments, college applications, or personal challenges and offer encouragement or help finding reliable information. Making colleagues feel “seen” means listening to their ideas, sharing helpful resources for their classes, and recognizing the effort they put into supporting students every day. Beyond students and teachers, it’s also important to notice those who may feel overlooked in a busy high school—new students, quieter students who spend time in the library between classes, paraprofessionals, custodial staff, and office staff. When we take time to acknowledge people, listen to them, and value their contributions, we help create a school environment where everyone feels that they belong.
ReplyDeleteAs an ECSE teacher, I make sure every student feels seen by taking the time to learn about their interests, abilities, and emotions. I greet them personally, notice their efforts, validate their feelings, and celebrate even small accomplishments. I provide opportunities for choice and voice so they know their thoughts and preferences matter. I make sure each child and their family is represented in my room.
ReplyDeleteFor colleagues, I make them feel seen by actively listening, acknowledging their contributions, offering support, and showing appreciation for their expertise and efforts.
Other people who need to be seen just as they are include families, administrators, and support staff. I can do this by building genuine relationships, respecting their perspectives, and demonstrating care and understanding in all interactions.
To make sure my students feel seen, I focus on building positive relationships with them. I make sure to say good morning and say their names when they walk in each day. During our morning circle, I give each of them time to share something with the class, or just me if they prefer. I notice when my students are working hard and trying their best. When one of my students is struggling with something, I give them time to calm down and take a break. I allow them an opportunity to visit if they want to. With students I have had in the past, when I see them in the hallways, I make sure to make eye-contact and say "hi". If times allows, I will visit a little more. Even after students aren't in my class anymore, I want them to know I still see them.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I check in with them. I ask them how it’s going or just how their day went. When a colleague comes to me with something they are struggling with, I make sure to be a good listener. I will usually follow up with a text message or a card reminding them that they are a great teacher, and that they are making a difference every single day. And sometimes leaving coffee or chocolate helps too. I also try to make sure others in the school such as paraprofessionals, administrators, cooks, janitors, and secretaries feel seen. I think just by saying by hi, listening, and thank you for all you do, can say a lot and shows appreciation.
Lastly, my family are people that need to be seen just as they are. On tough days this is something I have to remind myself of. This can be hard, because in families we sometimes have different opinions on varying topics, but ultimately, they are the one’s I love the most, and the ones who support me the most, so making them feel seen has to be a priority.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI can make sure all of my students feel seen by having real conversations with each of them. This is tough at the high school level where I have over 100 students a semester so I need to make sure I take advantage of the quick moments where I can dig into their interests. It could be a 30 second conversation, but if I can show them later that I remember something about them from our quick conversation, they will be seen.
With my colleagues, I can listen and not just wait for my turn to talk. This is harder for me than it sounds but it is critical. If things are going well, I need to be able to hear them and acknowledge them. If someone does something great or even good I can acknowledge it and let them know that I noticed. We all want to be seen.
My family also needs to be seen. My kids and my wife (and even my dog) need to know that I hear them and see them and understand their triumphs and their struggles. I want to make sure they don't feel alone in their low moments. I want to be there for them whenever I can be and show them that I see them.
I believe building good relationships with my students is the most important way to make them feel seen. I start by greeting them every morning by the door. I give compliments to them about their hair, clothes, shoes, activities, etc. Noticing when something is “off” for them or their mood is different and finding out that problem is huge, too. Discovering who they are outside of school and interacting with them during the day can really show that we care and they matter to us.
ReplyDeleteChecking in with colleagues is an important aspect of showing them you see them and hear them. Offering support and recognizing their hard work and dedication. Teaching can be very emotionally draining and challenging so it’s important to make sure your colleagues are surviving.
And beyond the classroom, we have our families, our spouses, our friends, and anyone we see outside of the school. Everyone is fighting some sort of silent battle we know nothing about. Doing a random act of kindness, even just a simple smile or hello, can change someone’s day and make them feel seen.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteStudents: Listening to them. Not just saying, "okay", but really listening to them. Following up with them and what they told you. Let them know that you really care about them. Currently, I have a step count competition with four students in one of my second grade classes. Yesterday I was on a walk and saw one of the four students at the park. They yelled across the park, "Mrs. Garcia what is your step count!". It's so fun to have connections with kids where they feel comfortable talking to you across the playground outside of school!
Colleagues: Talking will them and being a listening ear. Man, teaching can be tough. There are a variety of different behaviors that can a be tricky day in and day out and it can honestly be draining. Allowing our colleagues to vent or rant about something that is bothering and them knowing that you are a safe place for them and they know that you will not tell anyone.
Family: Being present with your family. Phones are the worst! I really try to make it a point to put my phone in a different room when I am with my family and kids. I want my kids and my husband to know that the time that I am with them is all for them, not for the screen. My husband and I try to get outside with our kids as much as we can. Obviously, the blizzard Monday kept us inside, but otherwise, when it is nice out we try to get out and be active with our children. We enjoy playing games and doing things that they like to do.
I will be in the hallway between classes and in the morning I will greet as many kids as I can and tell them to have a great day. I also ask kids how their day is going. I think eye contact with kids is important and actively listening to them. When they have a concern or issue, I want them to know that I care and will help them anyway I can. I also make sure I congratulate them when I hear good news about them.
ReplyDeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI feel like this is an area I excel in. I am a very deeply feeling type of person. I am able to talk to anyone and make them feel included easily. I make friends easily.
With my students, I greet them at the door each morning. They can choose their morning greeting which is -hug, fist bump, high five. I never skip this step, we do the same at the end of the day. I attend their extracurriculurs when I can. I make sure to ask them about their interests and continue to ask them throughout the year. My kids know they are loved and I care so deeply about each one of them.
I would say I am gifted in this area. I also make sure my school, supervisors, anyone knows that they matter to me. That I genuinely care about their well being.
I think everyone needs to know they matter. No one should be excluded. Everyone should matter greatly.
I can make my students feel see by saying their name, giving them a compliment, or giving them small pockets of my time. The first point, saying their name, might seem like a simple tasks but I have a large number of students on my roster and it’s easy for them to get lost in the shuffle. I think the same rings true for my colleagues. We all are busy with our ever-mounting workload but taking the time to check in on one another is so important. This was a great reminder that my family also needs to feel seen by me. It’s easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life but setting aside intentional time with my immediate family is critical.
ReplyDeleteI try to make sure my students feel seen by being the person at the door every single morning. It’s a small thing, but using their names and noticing something like a new pair of shoes or asking how a specific club meeting went makes a huge difference. I want them to know I’m not just waiting for them to sit down and start working, but that I’m genuinely glad they’re in the room.
ReplyDeleteWhen it comes to colleagues, I really want to focus on acknowledging our paras and support staff. They do so much of the heavy lifting in our classrooms, and it’s easy for that to go unnoticed in the middle of a busy day.
To make kids feel seen, they need to see you, they need to hear you, they need to know that you are there for them, building connections and learning about them. I greet my kids in the halls as they are transitioning from one class to the next. I try to be a funny guy in class with jokes and sayings that my students can relate to. Connecting with students as they work on wood projects and need that one-on-one help and compliment them as their projects come together beautifully.
ReplyDeleteConnecting with colleagues is probably one area that I could improve on. Although we have a pretty small staff and a lot of us have been here for some time, I get busy in my shop and don't make my way out of it at times. I do have a few good buddies who like to play jokes and tricks on each other and I feel that is sometimes a good check-in but to really "SEE" how they are doing, I definitely could improve on that.
Making sure every student feels “seen” starts with small, consistent actions; taking the time to get to know them and their interests. Greeting them every morning. Listening when they speak, noticing their efforts, and valuing who they are both inside and outside the classroom.
ReplyDeleteCo-workers feel “seen” when we acknowledge their hard work, check in on them, and offer support to them.
Beyond the classroom, students’ families, support staff, and even those who seem quiet or overlooked need to be seen just as they are. When we truly see people, we build trust, connection, and a stronger school community
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteTo help my students feel seen, comes down to small, consistent actions rather than big gestures. The biggest thing for me being an ELL teacher, is learning and using their names correctly. For example, Jesus (Hey-seuss, Xareni, (Ha-wren-e) and Arantxa (Ah-ron-s-ah). Another thing to make sure my students feel seen is to notice their effort, not just their outcomes. I need to pay attention to what excites or frustrates them, and reflect. Doing these things lets them know that they matter.
For my colleagues, feeling seen is similar but very often overlooked. I can try to acknowledge their contributions privately and/or publicly. I can also listen without immediately trying to fix or respond, and respect their time, boundaries, and working styles. Even a simple, genuine check-in can go a long way. You never what they are going through and hearing from you can make their day.
Other people who need to be seen could be the quiet person in the room who rarely gets acknowledged, someone who is struggling but covering it up well, a difficult student whose behavior might be covering something deeper, and even yourself needs to be seen. A lot of times I put everyone else before me and choose myself last, which then puts more stress on me. This is something that I need to change for myself and my mental health.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI would like to start by saying, I really enjoyed that TED Talk by Jody Carrington. I think to make everyone of your students feel seen, you have to have a genuine connection. (What a powerful statement by the coach that refers to getting his hockey players to skate faster because he knows the name of their dog.) That means, you have to care, care enough to learn about them and the things that they care about. I think that is similar to how you would make your co-workers feel seen. Connection to a person has to be genuine and sincere. There is no faking that. The other people in my life are probably the most important and because they my children and husband. I love them dearly but, in some cases, they may not get my best effort because I am the most comfortable with them. Similar to kids coming home from school. They may have been their best self at school and once they walk through the door, they are demon possessed:) This is a subtle reset reminder to connect with all the people I hold dear!
At my school we do “Positive Shout-Outs” for students and staff. We just reached 900 students for this year! They are acknowledged for making positive choices throughout the school day with a picture, certificate and a call home. We can also give shout outs to teachers when we recognize them making a difference. It doesn’t cost anything but for the school to print it. It is a great feeling to give them and to receive them. I also make sure to tell my students good morning every day when we do lunch count and recognize haircuts, clothing, glasses, how they did in their competition the night before, have conversations etc. I look for signs of happiness or frustration and make sure to ask about it. I like to acknowledge when staff members do great things, but also ask them for help. I think it’s a great compliment to ask for someone’s help. They feel seen and appreciated. I flood everyone with “thank yous”. I also make sure to address any concerns parents have, so they also feel seen. The people that need to be “seen” but not necessarily are, are the principal and vice principal. They have to deal with a lot of the negativity, but don’t always get recognized for all the good they do.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure every student feels seen, I try my best to be intentional about building small and consistent moments of connection each day. That would be greeting students every morning at the door and checking in to see how they are doing. I also notice effort and growth in each student and really try to bring up the ones who might go unnoticed.
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I try and focus on being present and supportive. I check in on them and recognize the work they are doing. Sometimes just listening without judgement can be the best thing. I always try do these because I know that it's exactly what I would want.
Others that also need to be seen are student's families, support staff, and even my own friends and family outside of school. It's easy to get caught up in daily responsibilities and overlook people sometimes, but slowing down and being intentional is what will make people feel seen.
Every morning as students are entering the classroom, I stand outside the door and greet them. I try to make sure they are greeted with positivity and them knowing that I am glad they are here! I talk to them in the mornings and make sure I notice any changes (haircuts, outfits, new shoes, ballgames, etc.). We work on Growth Mindset in our classroom a lot. I want the kids to know that our room is a safe environment and we all make mistakes but that is how we learn! I also have a WOW board in my classroom that I use to hold myself accountable to notice the small things. Sometimes it is hard to acknowledge the good students are doing when as a whole class we may be on the struggle bus. The WOW board allows me to give shout outs to those who are doing an awesome job (could be as simple as they got a book out in their downtime instead of being a distraction to their friends who are still working, or even lining up quickly and quietly). This has really been something my students enjoy and pushes me to make sure I notice the small things. I also send home postcards to each of my students in the mail throughout the school year. It is so much fun to hear how excited they are to get mail from me at home and to remind them how awesome they are! At the end of the day I also give each student a choice on their out the door goodbye (hug, high five, fist bump, foot bump, bow, etc.). This lets my students know I love them and am excited for them to return tomorrow!
ReplyDeleteTo make sure my colleagues feel seen, I do my best to be present when I see them. I always say hi in passing and I check in on them when I notice something is up or giving them the positives with the students we share! Our school also does Sunshine Buddies. We each have a secret buddy that we do random things for throughout the year. It can be things such as positive notes, or even little gifts to brighten their day. It has been so much fun to pass along positivity and to remind them of how amazing they are for being here for our kiddos!
Beyond the classroom, student's families and my own kiddos need me to see them as they are. As a teacher and a mom, it can sometimes feel impossible to give it all you have in both places. However, I am reminded everyday how much I matter to both my students and my own children and that gives me the strength to be there for them and support them each and every day!
I think it starts with being intentional in small, consistent moments rather than trying to do something big or complicated all at once. In a classroom like mine, where I may have 80+ students, it becomes about building connection over time through simple but meaningful actions. That can include taking a moment to learn small details about each student, acknowledging their birthday, noticing a win outside of school, or remembering something important happening in their life. Starting with those small touchpoints and gradually building on them throughout the year creates a rhythm of connection that feels real to students, even in a busy setting. It doesn’t require extra time in a large way, but it does require being intentional with the moments you already have.
ReplyDeleteFor my colleagues, I can make them feel seen by acknowledging their effort and the difficult work they do every day, as well as sharing positive feedback when I hear it. For example, if I overhear a student say something positive about their class or experience, I can take the time to pass that along to them. I can also make a point to offer genuine praise or encouragement when I notice them handling a tough situation well or going above and beyond for students. Small moments like that can help remind colleagues that their work is noticed and valued.
Beyond students and colleagues, I’ve also noticed that it takes many parts to run a school beyond just teachers or administrators, and a lot of those people don’t always get enough credit. Parents, support staff, custodians, office staff, paraprofessionals, and other members of the school community all play a huge role in making everything function day to day. Taking time to recognize and appreciate them matters just as much.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI currently have the biggest class I've ever had, so this has been a challenge for me. I've really tried to be intentional every day to greet each and every student with their name and some sort of comment or question and of course telling them I'm so happy to see them at school today! Then at the end of the day as we chaotically get them to the vehicles to go home, I do the same. I let them know we had a great day together and I can't wait to see them tomorrow.
I can make my coworkers feel seem by doing the same thing! We all get so busy and end up almost shutting each other out. I need to be reaching out to regain those relationships and remind us all that we are not just teachers in a classroom. We're regular people with the need for connection.
I think my family needs me to see them as they are. Again we all get busy and tired and overwhelmed and when we get home at the end of the day, it's hard to continue the positive attitude for my own family. I need to prioritize making them feel seen too!
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteYou can make sure students feel valued by greeting them by name at the door and try and connect with each student on a daily basis. How was your day? Did you understand your lessons today? Just checking in on them.
My coworkers I can do the same. Ask them how was their day. Just show interest in their lives in and out of school. We are always so busy it is nice to just take some time to get to know the people we work with on a daily basis.
My family is very important to me. I try to make time for each of them every day. My son, who is grown and moved out of our home I will text or call just to say hello or see how things are going. My mother, (I lost my father earlier this year) I call each night to check in on her. She looks forward to our nightly calls. My husband and I take time to visit each evening to find out about each other's day. This is something I find that is important in my life.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI make sure my students feel seen each morning when I greet them at the door! They choose a high five, foot bump, hug, or fist bump. They also feel seen when we have show and tell and author's chair. My students feel seen when they are the teahcer helper and lead calendar time! I try to make sure and listen to them one on one as they share stories or we correct mistakes on math papers. I make my colleagues feel seen when I stop and ask how their day is going or offer help or advice to a new staff member. I make my own children feel seen by talking to them daily even if just a text message. I think it is important to feel seen by someone each day!
Kelsey Berletic
ReplyDeleteThe best way I make sure students feel seen is by showing up for them in small but meaningful ways—like attending their activities, noticing what they’re reading and asking about it, or including their favorite snacks in a reward bucket. These moments help them feel valued beyond just academics.
When it comes to colleagues, I try to be a good listener and check in when I can. Even small gestures like bringing a “pick-me-up” coffee can let someone know they matter, but I also try to make space for them to feel heard and supported.
Outside of school, I also need to remember that my husband needs to feel seen just as he is. Taking the time to really listen, be present, and appreciate him—without trying to fix or change anything—is just as important.
Oh my! I love the last part of your statement, Kelsey :-)
DeleteBeing present and appreciating your husband without trying to fix or change anything?? This took me years of my marriage to learn! Still a work in progress but progress is being made.
Thanks for the reminder :-)
There are many things I can do to make my students feel seen. One is knowing their name. I have about 180 students this year. It is amazing how much calling them by name makes them light up. I have had students express shock that I know their name. It takes work, but it is worth it. My students and I have running jokes, fist bumps when we see other, and I ask questions about their lives. I follow up those questions later so they know I was serious. I live the next town over from where I teach, but I just found out that a bunch of my girl students play softball 4 blocks from my house. I am going to be hitting a few games this year.
ReplyDeleteFor most of the staff I work with, I try to be a listening ear. Everyone has that day when they are frustrated, and I try to listen. I can't change much, but they know they are heard.
My wife needs to know I see her. She struggles. She is disabled. Most days, I come home from school, and she tells me in great detail about all the work she has done around the house. It matters to her that I know that she is doing things. I listen and support her through her struggles.
It is all about connection! We need to see them, hear them and speak to them. Take the time to let students know that you are there for them. Stop in the hallway when they say “hi” and ask them a leading question that leads to learning something about them. Be excited to see them when they are in the grocery store or at a park. Go to their games that are on the weekend or after school. Tell them that you are glad to see them and mean it. Learn the student’s favorite animal and get them a sticker that has that animal and tell them you saw it, and it made you think of them.
ReplyDeleteYou colleagues need the same thing as a student. Connect with them and make them feel seen. Don’t just say it everyday but say it intentionally. If they are having a hard day let them know that you are so glad they are here today and that they make a difference. Tell them a time that you saw a student have a better day because of something they did. Tell them a funny story and walk them out to their car or home!
We concentrate so much on work that we need to remember that our family and friends need attention too!
Connection is key. I start the day by standing outside my classroom door greeting every student that walks down the hallway. I comment on their outfit, hair, what breakfast they have, and just try to make a connection. I give out a lot of hugs and "have a great day!" in the mornings to help get the day started off right. We never know what happened before school that day and I want all the students to know they are safe here at school.
ReplyDeleteConnecting with my team every day is important as well. It is easy to feel like we are on our own islands in teaching. Checking in and asking how their meeting went or if they need any help or if I need any help we ask and get it figured out. We also try to check in during our lunch times and just grow as humans.
Connecting with my own family is super important to me. It is easy to just go through the motions, but asking how their day went or noticing when they are sad or happy.
Connection is key! We all want to be seen, heard, and valued.
I loved the story about the coach knowing the name of the kids dog could improve the child’s performance. Knowing my kids lives, their passions and concerns. Making time to seek them out as they walk in the door, at recess, during conferencing.
ReplyDeleteI like to work through lunch, but I believe lunch is the time to connect become familiar with my colleagues home life. Many of our teachers have family members outside of the US and some have been born in other countries. Knowing about the culture and politics in other areas of the world. Also, those here on work versus may have increased stress.
Finally, I believe that admisinátration and office staff have an increased stress. With so many interns away from their culture and families for the first time, with kids who mentor daily, the added complexity of an immersion school. Those running the school have additional work and responsibilities.
I try to make every student feel seen by starting the day off greeting everyone as they come into my room. I try to be a positive start to everyone’s day. From there, I try to make connections with my students and get to know them as much as I can. We spend time on Fridays talking about weekend plans and Mondays we try to share about the weekend. If I can remember, I try to recall specifics about what they were planning to do and follow up on certain things. I’ve found a random compliment can go a long ways with kids as well. Just small little light ups mean the world to kids…and adults!
ReplyDeleteI try to make my coworkers feel seen by greeting them as I or they come in each day. We tend to spend a few minutes in the mornings touching base with each other. We also have a group chat that is good to keep in touch with each other, whether we need to check on a student or just a casual conversation outside of school hours to talk about anything we have going on. I want my coworkers to know their presence is an essential part to keeping things in balance some days.
There are ways to make sure that every child is seen every day. The first way is by being at the door, looking at the child, and saying "good morning" to each as well as adding a phrase, such as "I am glad you are here" or "I like the smile you are carrying with you this morning." Another way is to use post-it notes and place them on desks every once in awhile with notes of encouragement. I think the biggest way is to listen to them like they are the only person in the room and to learn about each of them. Making sure that colleagues feel seen each day involves taking the time to listen to and speak with each of them. Also, keeping notes of likes and giving someone a pick-me-up when things are not going well personally or professionally.
ReplyDeleteI will make sure that every single one of my students feels seen by greeting them every morning, as well as continuing to take interests in their interests. Remembering the small things they share with me, offering a shoulder to cry on when they need it, a hug when their visit didn't show up or just having a rough day
ReplyDeleteI will make sure my colleagues are seen by talking to them on a daily basis, asking how things are going, if they need help with anything, and just listening to them.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteDr. Jody Carrington did a great job describing the importance of human connection, especially when attempting to regulate the dysregulated. Whether with colleagues or with students it is important they they feel seen as it decreases burnout, increases compassion, and instils futility.
To make sure my students feel seen I can greet my students at the door, asking them questions about their weekend or night. I can take an interests in their interests such as attending their games, plays, etc. Basically, taking time to connect and build relationships with my students is what I can do to make sure they feel seen.
To make sure my colleagues feel seen I can do the things that make sure they feel acknowledged and appreciated such checking in with them, offering support when they need it, celebrating their successes, taking an interests in what they are doing in their classroom, etc. Small interactions such as a simile to acts of kindness can help me make sure my colleagues feel seen and create a more positive and supportive environment...they type of environment that every one wants to work in.
Other people that need me to see them include my family, friends, and all other people that I interact with. Everyone needs to be acknowledged and supported. Taking time to notice, listen, support, etc. can make a big difference in someone's day - there is value in making others feel valued and appreciated.
The task of making sure each student is seen is a difficult one, especially if you see a large number each day. But there are a couple things I do that hopefully helps. First, I try to build a classroom culture that is welcoming and safe. Kids know what to expect and they feel comfortable. As with most teachers, I do my best to build relationships and connections with each student. I probably do this better with some students than others, but I try. I try to learn about their interests and hobbies and unique things about them. I also have daily conversations with classes about things going on outside of the classroom in their lives and mine.
ReplyDeleteTo help colleagues feel seen I try to touch base with those around me daily. We touch base about students, what's working and what isn't, and things going on is our personal lives.
I also think it's important to make other personnel in the school feel seen as well. Especially the administration, para professionals, office staff, and janitors. Much of their work goes unseen and should to be recognized.
After watching Dr. Carrington’s video, I was able to take a few things from it. First, to make my students feel seen, I give high fives or “how are you?!” and/or have an actual conversation when I see a student in the hallway; whether they are my own students or others in the building. I greet my students at the door when they come in in the morning. Each student has to have some type of interaction with me prior to entering the classroom. They feel ‘seen’ but I also feel that this allows me to see what type of mood each student is in before we even enter the classroom. As far as colleagues, I have a motto that I go and talk to 3 teachers/staff members before school begins. Various chit-chat happens and conversations help get me into teaching-mode. I am also ‘that teacher’ in the workroom that enjoys just talking. It is not the serious talking or gossiping; more so, I enjoy asking my co-workers about their latest happenings. Often time they will say, “how did you remember that?” It makes me feel good because I know they feel ‘seen’ by me.
ReplyDeleteI can talk about all the wonderful ways that I can connect to my students and colleagues, but I forget the most important people that needs to be ‘seen’ as they are…my own children. I know that I have high expectations for them and I need to step back and see them for the wonderful individuals that they are. Because I am proud of them, but I need to be sure to give them more credit than I do.
As I teacher, I would make my kids feel seen by talking with them as they were working on their homework. I loved to ask questions about sporting events they are a part of their family since we are from a small town I knew all of them, their summer plans, their dreams/goals, and just how they were doing. There were many days that we would laugh and even some where we had tears about something that had happened in their life. I had a group of five or six students and one day we started a tag game in the hallway. You could not touch the same person in a row, and we always tried to do it "secretly". It was a highlight of my day as many times one of them would be hiding around a corner to get someone new.
ReplyDeleteI made my colleagues feel seen by smiling and saying "Hi" every morning. I would ask about their weekend or what their plans were for the weekend/summer. I sometimes would bring a colleague coffee in the morning if I knew they had a hard week. I also helped with positive post it notes day at the school I taught at and would write positive post it notes for all the students and even did some for fellow teachers.
I think that others who need me to see them are my seven children and my husband. Some days this is a hard thing to do when I am emotionally exhausted. I also have over 50 nieces/nephews that need to be seen. I don't get to see them all every day and maybe this year will be the year I just randomly send them a note in the mail. I think this would be a good connection especially with those who live far away.
The video Elevate 2022 with Dr. Carrington was very inspiring. I loved how she talked about acknowledging others should not be done once but at least 12 times. I know as a staff member, I felt that when we were acknowledged just the week of teacher appreciation did not help me stay emotionally connected all year long especially since most of our acknowledgement came from the parents of our students and not from our administration.
I believe that I can make my every single one of my students feel seen by making them feel comfortable in my classroom. This starts when I stand outside the door and greet them as they enter my classroom. When we come back from the weekend, before I start my instruction, I ask the students if they had a good weekend and if anyone did anything fun over the weekend. I also try to find something that they like, whether it's hockey, stock car races, etc and talk to that student about it. By finding something that I can relate to and have a little bit of knowledge about, I can talk to the student and make them feel comfortable around me. Another way to make them feel like they are seen is to make myself available if the student wants to talk or ask questions about anything.
ReplyDeleteI can make my colleagues feel like they are being seen in some of the same ways. Being there if they have a stressful day and listening to them vent, giving them words of encouragement or words of advise. I also believe that if you work together with your colleagues as a team that this is one way to help the staff members feel appreciated. This includes anything from covering a class for them if they need time off, to helping giving them ideas in preparing lesson plans.
I believe that not only does my family need me to see them as they are, but every single person that we deal with in everyday life. This could be someone at a store, bank, school or sporting event. Everyone is different and is dealing with different things in their life so we need to think about that before we make any judgements of people.
I agree Belynda, I believe every single person that we encounter needs to feel seen. So many people are dealing with all kinds of things that we don't know about. Simply smiling and making eye contact with them could be what they need.
DeleteI can make my students feel seen by asking them how their day is going, how their weekend was, what is going on in their life, etc. Every morning I meet them in the hallway and say good morning to them. On Monday's I usually ask what they did over the weekend, or on Friday's ask if they have anything planned. I sometimes will eat lunch with them as well.
ReplyDeleteMy co-workers- at the end of the day, while we are out dismissing our students in the hallway, we often gather and just chat about the day. Some of us eat lunch together in the work room. We know we can all rely on each other when someone needs help, a minute to themselves, or coverage of their room.
I try my best to make my students feel seen by connecting with them beyond their academics, because that personal connection is what creates true "buy-in." While I would love to start attending their extracurricular events in the future, balancing life with two young kids means that is on hold for now. Instead, I use our morning "teacher table" folder checks to notice small details, ask about their interests, and celebrate who they are outside of school. For my colleagues, making them feel seen is all about the little things. I love building connections by dropping off their favorite drinks, leaving encouraging notes, offering compliments, or simply acknowledging their unique strengths. Ultimately, I believe every person deserves to be seen exactly as they are. While it is often easier said than done, I try to remain mindful of this because we truly never know what the people around us are going through on the inside.
ReplyDeleteI agree! It's really hard to make those outside-of-school connections with so many students when you are a busy mom with young kids! My kids are finally all teenagers, and I am starting to feel like I could have more time for that now. I think it's okay to give yourself grace in that department. There will be a time in the future when you can focus more on that again, but for now, being present for your own children is extremely important!
DeleteRecently, I was able to connect with my 6th grade teacher. I was in his class in the early 80's and I remember it like it was yesterday. He always seen me and I believe he understood that I was not supported or lifted up at home. He was able to inspire me in subtle ways - such as, his claw footed tub in his reading nook with pillows. I loved reading and it always felt like such a treat to read there. He always chose me because he knew how much I loved reading. One of the ways I am lifted up by my students, is when they accomplish something and I am so excited about their writing or creation, that I get goose bumps! They know this and are always trying to make it happen :) It really lifts them up when I get giddy and excited about their work or accomplishments. I always make sure to get to know them and talk about their lives in activities or other things they have talked about.
ReplyDeleteHow I make sure that every one of my students is seen is by standing outside my classroom every morning and as each one comes in, telling them “good morning and I’m glad you are here today”. Also some of them loves hugs or high fives as they go into my classroom. One of my favorite parts is in our morning meetings on Tuesdays (first day of the week for preschool), each students gets to tell a story or share something with the class (if they would like).
ReplyDeleteHow I can make sure my colleagues are seen is greeting them and getting to know them as a “person” not as just a colleague. Another thing we do is every Thursday, we order coffees. Every once in a while, if I know someone has had a tough week or just a “hey thinking of you”, I will pay for their coffee.
I think another important person that needs to be seen is my family/kids. I feel as a teacher, my kids get a little less of me and this year I made sure that I made a ln effort to make sure to put my phone down and spent evenings and weekends with my family.
I love your Tuesday morning meetings. How fun for the students to get to share with the others. I feel like getting to know your fellow colleagues as a person is a wonderful thing to do, I also feel it is probably easier in a smaller school setting rather than a larger one but it can be done in both.
DeleteOh wow! I enjoyed that video! I felt every word Jody said! I've learned in my years of teaching that the relationships and connections mean everything! This past year I had a student I really struggled to connect with. It wasn't necessarily her fault either. She was "hard". I had to remind myself every single day to make sure I was "seeing her"! Each morning I (along with my hallway neighboring teachers) stand and great all the kids as they flow down the hallway. We start conversations. We give hugs! We joke and laugh with them. At the end of the day, I dismiss them one at a time. We hug, high five , or have special handshakes. It is their choice. But, I like to use their names. "Have a great night, Susie!" With my coworkers, I try to do the same. After a retirement last year, I am now the "senior" teacher in our building. It feels strange because I don't think of myself as experienced, but I'm starting to own up to my role. I like to talk to each of our teachers and paras... our kitchen staff and custodians. Ha ha! It's the only carpeted room in the building. This gives me a chance to visit with our newer, younger teachers. It's our therapy sessions! LOL
ReplyDeleteI absolutely loved the quote, "We are all just here - walking each other home." That was powerful! I not only want to work on making sure all my family members and close friends feel seen, but also anyone I meet in my day. I think by giving more smiles, making more eye contact, giving small greetings.... this can all have a domino effect. Maybe it will make someone else pass along a smile or a hello.
I love that you mentioned the custodians!! I love connecting with them. They do the hardest work and I love to have conversations together.
DeleteI think the best way to make students feel seen is to greet them at the door and compliment them. I try to use meaningful ways to connect and compliments based on their likes and activities and special
ReplyDeleteunique interests and talents. I like to use humor, too.
I also like to stay in the hallway and have discussions with my colleagues to make them feel seen. I ask about their coaching and activities or comment on hallway posters. I especially like to ask them about their kids and their weekend fun.
My family members need me to see them as they are, too, including my husband, but especially my children.
Hi Amber, thanks for sharing! I think meeting students at the door is a great way for them to feel seen! I love your insight on your family members as well!
DeleteHow can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteFor me, the biggest part of making others feel 'seen' is taking the time to really pay attention to the person. We are so schedule-driven in school that I can lose track of how important it is to stop and connect with the humans around me. And if I wait until someone's behavior is screaming at me for attention then real connection is much more difficult. So, I try to connect intentionally as much as possible.
I have a 'homeroom' group that I see each day. I make it a point to ask them at the beginning of the year about themselves and I use that information to celebrate their birthday with a small gift of their favorites- candy, snack, drink- and it creates such a connection.
I connect and support my colleagues by asking about what is going on in their lives and listening to their responses. That makes such a huge difference when you are dealing with life - just processing by talking to trusted people- I don't presume to have solutions, but I can share the burdens on their minds.
How can you make sure every single one of your students feels ‘seen’? How can you make sure your colleagues feel ‘seen’? Who else needs you to see them just as they are?
ReplyDeleteI think eye contact and a daily personal greeting at the door makes each student feel seen as they enter my room. It's such a simple thing to do and has huge benefits. I know this, and yet I still sometimes get caught up in the hectic day-to-day chaos and instead sit at my computer and quickly check email while kids are entering my room. This is a good reminder of why that personal greeting at the door is so important. I also loved the idea in the book about having a bulletin board in my room of students' activities so that I can make it a goal to watch/cheer on each kid at least once throughout the year doing something they love. That was something I found really hard to do as my own children were younger, but now that I have three teenagers, I feel like I have a little more time to try to accomplish that this year.
I can make my colleagues feel seen by continuing to show interest in their lives outside of school: their spouses, children, and interests. I can support them in life's big moments, both good and bad.
I think the person who needs me to see them just as they are is my 15 year old daughter. Raising teenagers (and especially girls in my situation) is challenging, and I know my daughter has felt judged. I need to work on just seeing her and supporting her as she is.